Special Edition: Does This Make Sense Yet?

Today’s special edition post is from Tova Dad, my favorite daughter and Virtual Assistant. She lives outside of Amarillo with her husband and their two daughters.

“This will all make sense when I am older

Someday, I will see that this makes sense

One day when I’m old and wise

I’ll think back and realize

That these were all completely normal events

I’ll have all the answers when I’m older

Like why we’re in this dark enchanted wood

I know in a couple years

These will seem like childish fears

And so I know this isn’t bad, it’s good

Growing up means adapting

Puzzling out your world and your place

When I’m more mature, I’ll feel totally secure

Being watched by something with a creepy, creepy face

See, that will all make sense when I am older

So there’s no need to be terrified or tense

I’ll just dream about a time

When I’m in my agéd prime

‘Cause when you’re older

Absolutely everything makes sense”

These are the lyrics to the song “When I’m Older,” as performed by Josh Gad in the movie Frozen 2.

The movie has several songs that parents can enjoy possibly even more than their children. This one in particular carries a feeling almost everyone can relate to.

You’ve probably felt like you can always go to an older person to make sense out of something you don’t understand or can’t handle by yourself.

Surely some learnéd wisdom will put this to rights.

And how old do you have to be when everything makes sense? Has anyone ever looked around for an adult-ier adult?

Some of us are lucky enough to have those kinds of people in our lives who are there to listen, advise, comfort, sympathize, or just plain pick up the pieces when we shatter.

Sometimes they are on hand with tape or glue to put our pieces back together. Sometimes they just offer their shoulder to cry on, or a lap to sit and share the load of our worries, fears, stress, or heartbreak.

Please understand me – I’m not trying to be vague about any specific loss right now. This post came about because the song was playing on a Disney music medley in my daughter’s classroom during the class Valentine’s party.

But let’s just state the obvious points here:

Everyone experiences loss and pain
You will never be old enough to make sense out of everything.

Here’s another hard truth: our Heavenly Father may not reveal the cause of our pain or suffering.

That is not to say that He doesn’t understand it, but that He told us there would be suffering. And in that suffering He will always be with us.

He will sit with you in your confusion, your hurt, your heartbreak. You can cry with Him, you can bring your anger to Him, you can share your heartbreak with Him.

And sometimes, and over time, he may bring His tape and glue to put us back together. And sometimes, He will just let you leave the worst of your worst in His lap.